Sure, those couples who constantly refer to themselves as “we” may come off as annoying, but that probably means their relationship is rock-solid.
A new study from the University of California Riverside found that pairs who use first-person personal pronouns have more successful relationships and are happier and healthier.
Researchers combed through 30 previous studies involving 5,300 participants in relationships, half of whom were married. Comparing couples who used “we-talk” with those who didn’t, they analyzed several factors to determine happiness in a relationship including outcomes (length of union, satisfaction), behaviors, mental health, physical health and health behaviors.
Their findings showed that both men and women of all ages who used “we” and “us” reported more positive effects in every measure.
“‘We-talk’ is an indicator of interdependence and general positivity in romantic relationships,” said Alexander Karan, University of California graduate student and co-author of the study. “The benefit of analyzing many different couples in a lot of different contexts is that it establishes we-talk isn’t just positively related in one context, but that it indicates positive functioning overall.”
University of California psychologist Megan Robbins said just using these pronouns could change how you view your relationship.